Course Content
Introduction
This is a quick hello from me and a summery of what to expect from the course, why I have made it and how to use it.
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Step 1: Reflect on your reasons for ending the relationship
It's important to take the time to really think about why you want to end the relationship. Are there specific issues that have caused the relationship to deteriorate? Or do you just feel like the relationship is no longer fulfilling for you? Understanding your motivations can help you communicate your thoughts and feelings more effectively to your partner.
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Step 2: Consider the other person’s feelings
Ending a relationship can be emotionally difficult for both parties, and it's important to be considerate of your partner's feelings. Try to approach the conversation with empathy and compassion, and be willing to listen to their perspective. Remember that your partner is likely to feel hurt and may have their own thoughts and feelings about the situation.
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Step 3: Perfect communication
When ending a relationship, it's important to be open and honest with your partner about your feelings. Avoid being vague or avoiding the conversation altogether, as this can lead to misunderstandings and further hurt. Instead, try to have an open and honest conversation about your decision to end the relationship.
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Step 4: Take care of yourself
Ending a relationship can be emotionally draining, so it's important to take care of yourself during this time. Make sure to prioritize self-care, whether that means spending time with friends and family, engaging in activities you enjoy, or seeking support from a therapist or other trusted resource. Remember that it's okay to feel a range of emotions during this time, and it's important to give yourself the time and space you need to heal.
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Step 5: The breakup
Before having the conversation with your partner, it can be helpful to plan out what you want to say. Consider the best time and place for the conversation, and think about what you want to communicate to your partner. It can also be helpful to have a clear idea of what you want the outcome of the conversation to be, whether that means ending the relationship immediately or taking some time to process before making a final decision.
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The aftermath
Ending a relationship is never easy, and it can be tempting to try to hold onto the relationship or to look back on the past. However, it's important to move forward in a healthy and positive way and to respect both your own needs and the needs of your ex. In order to do this, it's important to "don't look back, don't beg, and don't lead your ex on". This means focusing on the present and the future, respecting the other person's feelings and needs, and being clear and honest about your intentions. By following these guidelines, you can navigate the process in a healthy and constructive way and respect both your own needs and the needs of your ex.
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How-to: End A Relationship
Exercise: Preemptive empathy

This exercise is similar to the last, it is designed to help you actively listen by having some expectation of what could be said. Actively listening can be really tough if you aren’t used to it and are under stress.

Preempting how someone is going to react or feel is impossible. Having thought about how they might feel can be useful though and during the breakup, stop you from getting hung up on ‘me’ statements and your own agenda.

In step 2 you were focused on thinking about their side of the relationship and the breakup.

Now that you have had some time to think about this, I want you to list down a few pros and cons of your relationship and the breakup from their point of view.

Take them one at a time, read them carefully and answer honestly.

  1. List 3 positive things they will no longer have and miss from your relationship. (Eg. Companionship)
  2. List 3 positive things they will gain or benefit from because of the breakup. (Eg. More free time)
  3. List 3 things negative things from your relationship that they won’t miss after the breakup. (Eg. Arguments)
  4. List 3 negative things that will happen to them after the breakup. (Eg. Access to children)

Now that you have your list jot them down somewhere private, perhaps a note on your phone.

This list will be needed during step 7 which is the breakup itself.

Make sure this list can’t be found by anyone and delete it after your breakup, this is a list for your eyes only and could be very hurtful if leaked to others.